How to make kids behave in an online meeting.

DSC05828 (2)When I locked the door they make more noise by knocking at it too hard with a yell ” Nanay, ooo..pen the door! ”

When they see me talking to my client online they wanted to show up and talk to them. So, I ended introducing them to my clients. My problem – they wanted to talk more especially when the client was trying to communicate with them.

There are three kinds of clients:

Client 1: They understand that you are a parent.

Scenario 1: My kids entered the room and were talking, trying to ask who am I talking to. I tried to hiddenly push them away from my camera.

Client 1: It’s ok Mae, I have kids too. You can talk to them and get back to me if you like.

Client 2: Work is work
Scenario: (My kids are calling me to go ) I hear that kids voice. I am not sure if you can do my task. My task is so demanding and you have so many things to do.

Client 3: We can make a bit of friendly talk and let’s proceed to work.
This is the client that my kids really loved. When I am having a meeting they joined with me. They even had a few small talks with my client before we start the proper meeting. My problem – they wanted to talk more especially when the client was trying to communicate with them.

Since these two little buddies of mine were like bubble gum to my tummy and to my breast. It would be very difficult to shoo them away to whatever I do. And the best thing to do is to make them quiet.

Now, my mother thought me an idea to put a note: A note near to my working table and at the door to our room.

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Was this effective? Yes, I think my eldest son understands it, he even opened the door slowly and hide from my computer when he was trying to get the toy. And because the youngest was crying he tried to let his toy be borrowed by his youngest brother and the best thing they went to the playground with their cousin. 🙂 When they get home the meeting was over and I had a new task to do. 🙂

 

 

 

Maximized your resources for your kiddy party!

I just came home from a christening and birthday celebration of Cate. They celebrated it at once. I believe this is a great idea to save time, money and effort.

Cate was a baby girl light colors were a great color theme for her party. It was a great theme color like pastel pink, turquoise, white, orange and beige. Very refreshing to the eyes and feminine. And yes, all were the idea of a loving mother. Young and creative. Kring her mother and with the help of the siblings – conceptualized the decors. The backdrop was decorated with balloons and an accent of the green leaf. The centerpiece at the backdrop was the picture of Cate taken from a cellphone. Her dress was personally knitted by Kring from old clothes which she re-designed.

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Let’s learn from Kring how she maximized her resources to make the event successful without hiring a caterer, renting accommodation and a professional photographer.

  1. Family Support – Filipinos have a Bayanihan culture. Bayanihan culture was when relatives and friends help together in building a house or doing the harvest. Just the same concept, if there was a celebration we used to ask or relatives offering free help to make the event successful. With the support of the siblings and relatives from both sides – they have cooked the food and prepared the decors all together.

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2. Use the resources available – they availed for free the function hall of the subdivision. Her sister was a homeowner hence, they have the privilege to use it for no cost.

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3. Not so much of decors but making the backdrop attractive and colorful makes the venue so refreshing.

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4. Kring redesigns old clothes and knitted it by herself self which was Cate’s clothes during the pictorial and the party.

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5. The giveaways were not so many but enough to cater one head per family.

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6. The loot bags were made up of paper cups and inside were candies and small colored pens. Just enough to make kids happy and get busy with much tiny stuff inside.

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7. They hired a magician to entertain the kids and also the adults.

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8. Before the program started the guest were already encouraged to eat lunch then a few minutes the programs started. I believe that was a great idea to full the tummy first then enjoy the program. Thus, no need to have pica-pica.

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Of course, I volunteered to take unlimited photos. I enjoyed taking photos of the happy faces of the guest, the parents, and the celebrant. So, if you knew a friend who has an HD camera invite them and ask them to be the photographer for the event :-).

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Organizing a hands-on kiddy party was not easy between the smiles of parents, relatives and families were sleepless nights that will make it a successful and memorable event! Kudos to Kring! Taking care of a child then making all these a very creative event was a great mother job!

Birthday, Christening DIY and party Ideas!

I went to my sister at Bagumbayan Sultan Kudarat because it’s her firstborn son’s birthday and christening celebration altogether. They have done it at once to be economical.  With their theme “Recycle and Re-use” I was amazed at how she prepared with the souvenirs and some DIY for the reception. Yes, she prepared it months before the celebration. She managed her time from the office and breastfeeding her son. She assembles the box, compiles the pictures and everything. Here are some helpful tips from her:

  1. Souveniers – It cost her less than  30 pesos. These are indoor plants in the pot, then printed a picture of the baby.  With the theme ‘recycle and re-use” I am sure many would love this idea. She bought plants from the local suppliers they are much cheaper than going to the mall.
  2. Loot Bags – She ordered the toys from shoppee, no food only cute toys inside her DIY newspaper bag. She bought bulk toys that cost less than 100 for 10-20 pcs.

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The Reception

They got a package from a hotel P40,000 the accommodation and the food. They just add Lechon and pica and add her few DIY decor ideas.

3. These Boxes with letters “NATHAN FRANZ” and the photos of her baby all were prepared by her and some support of her household. Of course, despite the many details of a wife, a supportive husband would make all these things possible.

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She prepared those framed photos.

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4. Pica-Pica

Pica pica is a variety of tiny foods that we can pick and eat while waiting for the program to start. I think it is very important to avoid headaches hahaha, and keep everybody busy with the lovely tiny food which can keep them waiting while enjoying this food. Yes, I saw how the visitors enjoyed it. My sister contacted my cousin for the pica-pica corner. If you are interested to have her service you may contact her at her facebook page Jcppartypoppers

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This is Cris you may contact her facebook for your party needs.

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How was your Christmas 2019!

 

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Christmas 2019 for me is not much! There were no Christmas trees not so much of gifts.  My husband was not there to celebrate with us but he’s coming home soon for the new year! One thing I am grateful for, this year God taught me to bend my knees and get back to him in solemn prayers. Because I do not have enough money to spend on Christmas eve, I learned to face what I have and go on keep on praying for those that I deserved to have. Still, a few foods on the table with few significant people in our house are worth the Christmas 2019! Kids were sleeping so tight and they cannot blow their horns :-), and the neighbors are far not a sound of many greetings and tarotot ( horn) but still very grateful that despite some challenges God is still here for us! Reminding that he is the source of every good thing we have and we should go back and bend in prayers!

 

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Merry Christmas Everyone!

Lazada Thailand Review – Online Shopping!

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It’s almost Christmas and my kids are excited to see their father and of course, they are excited about the gift. My eldest son has been longing for a Beyblade toy.

My husband thought that it was an expensive toy but it just cost from 200Bhat- 700Bhat. Beyblade was on sale 20% up to 50%! He does not need to go around Bangkok to buy toys that my kids exactly wanted to receive. He just sent the photo while we are chatting and kids would just choose which one they like.

 

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Parents looking for a gift for their kids, Lazada Thailand delivers affordable and quality toys. My husband has been buying through this online shop and we got our kid’s toys from gun toys, insect toys and their Beyblade through this online shop. Nevertheless every order he received is of great quality. Visit Lazada here.

 

                                 My  Lazada Thailand online review!!!

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Frozen II Review!

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5 Stars on the Frozen II  movie!

I have not been to the cinema for many years, this time we had three tickets for my two little boys and me. A fundraising program for Christmas organized by the parents’ school teachers organization of my son’s school. At first, I thought my two kids and I would not enjoy because we had not seen Frozen I either and they even laughed when hearing the movie, “they said it’s for girls”. Yes, we watched the Frozen II. There was a flock of kids and families lining up.

The frozen II movie was really amazing from the effects, the character and their personalities plus Elsa and Anna were very pretty! A magical movie that made me think about how did the writers, directors, and others put all together to put life into the movie.  You will be hypnotized by their magical world. It was adventurous and that ice coming out from Elsa’s hands, the way he runs, sway her body and execute her power was really amazing. I want to become Elsa at that moment :-). And owh, her clothes were really nice. Olaf giggles kids in the cinema. Kids were silent when Elsa was fighting alone to find the third power.  Laughing at Olaf and Anna’s boyfriend (when he was trying to propose to Anna), shouting and even clapping at the end of the movie.

The movie was not just all about the luxury of being a princess but finding for the reason of her existence and Elsa’s power – that was to free the tribe coming from their mother and the tribe coming from their father. Frozen II was about the love of the family -especially how the two sisters showed their support for each other through thick and thin. It was touching how Anna did not prioritize his boyfriend yet because of her sister Elsa but when everything goes well. They both learned to let go and live separately according to their mission. It was nice how Anna and Elsa showed their affection, concern, and love for each other.

Frozen II movie is full of values, excitement, and adventure. I recommend families to watch together! Boys and girls would really enjoy the movie just like how my two little kids enjoyed it!

Hope this country has regulations to protect the consumers as fast as sending an email. Just like calling 911 – to the big companies in this country, banks and malls please teach your employees to treat customers well.

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Hope this country has regulations to protect the consumers as fast as sending an email. Just like calling 911 – to the big companies in this country, banks and malls please teach your employees to treat customers well.

I am writing this with disappointment. After calling one of the biggest banks in our country to follow up for our car insurance claim. We have been waiting for email response, txt response for almost three months now. I tried calling several times, always rung and nobody was answering. This morning was the best time to call. At 8:00 am, I may be the first customer. I called up, it appeared to be approved last October. They did not even care to respond to our emails or inform us that the number they gave was no longer active. They did not even bother to call us! Where is your aftercare customer service?!!! Don’t we deserve a penny of your call for our claim!?

We are paying for the service that we should deserve but you are treating us like rotten customers who don’t deserved to be informed about the status of our claim. Have you been training your employees about customer care to start with? We are in the millennial world please, let them understand that the reason why you have emails is to also communicate to your clients especially if they are ofw’s. You’re asking us our email address and we sent you documents needed for the claim, you cannot even respond back that you received the document. Not, even answering when my husband was asking the status. Waiting for almost three months of when our car should be repaired is absurd, right? But we did patiently wait for your instruction so with the shop who informed us to wait for your approval. It was so disappointing that if not had been of me calling your office we would not know that it was already approved last October.

This is not my first time to have a bad experience with the same bank. I came across with another bad customer service when I opened an account. the service was so poor and yet they cannot offer an option to resolve the issue.

This is also not my first time to meet poor customer service in big companies, the owner of this village where we built our house. It took as couple of months to get the refund of the deposit we made when we built our house, just because the office here in Davao is dependent to the office in Manila so the process took 48 years to finish!

This is not my first time to meet poor customer service in big companies. When I was traveling with an infant 3 years ago, the front desk in one of the big airlines did not even care to offer help when I and my two kids need to catch the flight from Manila to Bangkok because their airlines delayed the flight. I baby wear my youngest and thank God my eldest was 4 years old then when i told him we would be playing running race, we ran fast going to the next flight. You know what the front desk says: “Cge maam takbo kayo baka ma iwan kayo?” and poor me just followed her, I did not even realize that they should take part of our running – the plane almost left us because of their delayed flight!

This is not my first time to meet poor customer service not in big companies but with medium companies. Where the agents selling in the store do chatting with co-employees first before attending to your needs.

What poor customers we are! What a poor consumers we are!  We just have to accept how they treat us poorly. These big companies are getting us big money but with such a poor customer service they can offer. Poor after customer service! With employees who don’t understand the value of their customers, who don’t even understand the importance of communication and who could not give an alternative to resolve an issue.

Hope this country have regulation to protect the customers as fast as sending an email. Just like calling 911. The US has BBB.org I hope we have like this one so that the customers can just raise their concerns immediately and private companies would regulate their services.

With customer service we are far way behind, consumers are like beggars asking these companies to treat them well. But with the cost of the things we buy and service we avail,we are one of those who pay a high price!

Maayo lang mo maningil da! diretso minus raba sa atong account pg delay naa pay interest. Unya kumusta naman inyo customer service!???

Maayo pato si manong ng baligya saging mo katawa pa mang hangyad sa iyang baligya. Maayo pato si ate ng baligya sa iya carenderia, libre pa ang tubig ug sabaw.

Maayo patong mga ng baligya ug isda sa palengke naa pay libre kuha himbis ug hasang. Maypa tong carpool service offer pa ug dala sa bag sa mga bata and even mo bantay sa mga bata pg walay gaurdian.

May pa tong mga gaurds sa skwelahan sa akong anak, mo open pa sa door sa car daun kuguson ang bata padulong sa sulod skwelahan.

Kamo unsa na? Walay libre tanan bayad pro way pulos ang serbisyo?!!! GROW UP YOUR CUSTOMER CARE SERVICE?!!!

What are the best places to go in Bangkok with Kids?

Me and my two boys used to visit my husband who works as an overseas in Kabinburi, Thailand. Every time we visit amazing Thailand my husband makes an itinerary mainly for kids to enjoy in Bangkok. What are the best places to go in Bangkok with Kids? below is my current lists of the best places to visit while in Bangkok with kids with entrance fee and without. These details I am talking about are for years 2018 and 2019. I will be mentioning the year since we understand that prices and places may grow and innovate with time.

  1.  Safari World

Cost: 810 Bhat/ head includes buffet lunch. Kids below 100cm are free.  

We were able to book a ticket from a friend it cost lesser than booking online. Be there as early as 6:00 am because there is a flock of tourists and of course to enjoy all the shows they have and you may have ample of time to roam around this huge Safari World. The park was opened in 1988 with a total area of 480 acres (190 ha) for its open zoo and 180acres for its bird park.

Not only kids will enjoy this place so much! Parents will have fun too! Kids will be amazed personally by looking at several animal species which they only see on the TV. Kids have mixed emotions siam covers his nose when he saw the Elephant but my Philnand enjoys feeding the elephant. They have an elephant show, orangutan show, dolphins show, sea lion shows, and giraffe feeding as well. Walrus is fun too and many more. Then a huge lunch buffet eat as much as you can then roam again!

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2. Ocean World /Sea Life Bangkok Ocean World.

Cost : 650 Bhat per head. Kids below 100cm are free approximately these are kids from 1-4 years old.

This place is located inside a huge Siam Paragon mall map here

Kids will enjoy the marine animals. This is where my kids saw different kinds of dart-poison frog which they only saw on youtube while watching be brave. Amazing the frog is as mall as a thumb watch here

You may need some guidance on how we get there check out here.  There is no free lunch and you may take your lunch just 1 story above the park. There are several food restaurants lining up from, Thai food, Japanese food, and many others. Overwhelming! Food! food! food! this is one of the reason makes Thailand amazing. It’s affordable and tasty.

3.  Watching 3D cartoon movie at Madame Tussauds Museum Bangkok

Cost : 645 Baht/Head a bit cheaper since we got an early bird ticket.

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Madame Tussauds Museum Bangkok is also known to be a wax museum. Popular celebrities, athletes, politicians, musicians are being replicated using wax. Kids still enjoy the place but they enjoy more in watching 3d cartoon movie. There are also games and many more.

4. Public Parks for free.

Lumpini Park is the first public park in Bangkok. Entrance is free you can bring food or buy food from vendors just outside the park and a store inside. If all you want to to do is breathing fresh air and let your kids play around with the doves, feel the breeze of the wind, watch over the lake this is a perfect place to unwind and relax for free.

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Benchasiri Park is a garden on Sukhumvit Road, Khlong Toei District, Bangkok, Thailand. Built on 11.6 acres next door to the Emporium shopping complex. This park is also very nice if you want to jog around an have a glimpse of the dove and monitor lizard. We went here just for the kids to see real monitor lizard and indeed some monitor lizard will walk along with you. They are hiding near the rivers.

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There are still more places to go in Bangkok, See you in  my next post.

For hotels, my husband is using booking.com to get great deals for accommodation.

Using booking.com makes it easier to book online you can pay online or reserve the accommodation and pay when you arrived. In Thailand, there are many great hotels to stay with and at affordable prices. Go choose where to stay in Booking.com

No me time, it’s always us time!

Being a work at home mother is a privilege for me to be with my kids almost every minute of my time. Those were the days! Those were the days that I wanted to have a me-time but I refused to, because my two boys used to see me beside them. Yes, I had secret tears moments, but those were the days! Yes, those were the days.

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Even my journal is my eldest son’s drawing book.

Now, I don’t have a long hour me time but we have us time. We go to the mall together, we drop his kuya sometimes in the school and get him, they wait for me when I am in the parlor too,  play tennis or jog, study, and yes, in all my going outs, they are with me. Am I enjoying it? Yes, I do! Though sometimes I wanted to have my time- my thoughts still are with them. When I go out alone, I ended up wanted to go home right away! I’m on my case to go home. Do I like it, when they are looking for me? Yes, of course, because I know very soon I will have an ample of me time. Philnand will go to school next year, I would be alone in this coffee shop working while waiting for them.

 

 

Today was the longest me time. I call it my time because I almost have 5 hours, thinking of how can I build a building like this? (Just Kidding) 🙂

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While my little one does his own thing, lying down, eating then playing. No annoying movements, he just wanted to sleep as he has been doing whenever I bring my laptop here. I miss writing and I choose to write! Just thinking of my goals and put them into writing. I left my pressures from deadlines and other matters that a mother should think. I just think of my goals and write them.  While watching the busy street and the tall buildings wishing to have one of them someday uhmpp.. I am dreaming.. 🙂

This is just my one kind of me time, waiting for my eldest’s sons dismissal time, no laptop. Just trying to have peace of mind and redirecting thoughts to a goal. Maximizing my own me time while I am with them is equal to us time.

Tools to release stress: the blue space!

 

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I decided to be a full-time mother when I was pregnant with my first born son Siam. I pave my way through Upwork to get an online job while I am staying at home with my kids. My husband works overseas. I have support like parents and relatives staying in the house but, taking care of kids while the husband is away was not easy. There are just things that a wife could only express to the husband that I couldn’t express to others.  My mind and body need to be strong for my kids. If my husband is around it’s a relief though because he tries to carry all, budgeting and take care of the kids most of his time and I have a pretty relaxing moment thinking only a few things like my online job and some chores in the house. My mind is literally relaxing.

I am trying to understand where my stress coming from. Oh, after two years, I get pregnant, then Siam needs to undergo surgery then after a week I labored my second child Philnand. Again, after two years, my second child needs to undergo surgery of the same disease as my eldest – Hirschsprung’s disease.  Philnand’s recovery from surgery gave me more worries. I worry every day when he couldn’t poop thinking that when the first surgery wasn’t working well, he needed to undergo another surgery. I need to deal with his shouts and cries when during potty time. He felt pain when pooping and he didn’t want to poop!

I felt like giving up! My kids could not live without seeing me even for a day! There was no way of giving up! One day, I tried to sneak outside where my kids couldn’t see me. I was walking and trying to meditate under the heat of the sun. Imagined that the heat of the sun burns my negative thoughts and God’s holy spirit washes away my busy mind. I was walking and I saw Siam’s carpool, so I decided to stay on the road where the carpool usually passes through out of the village, expecting my son could see me. I waited for almost thirty minutes but I did not see my son’s carpool passes through the road. I decided to go home and asked my mother if Siam has already gone to school: she said yes! I cried and got inside the room, scared what was happening to me? Am I becoming crazy? I believe, what my mind saw was not really happening! I talked to my husband and he told me to lie low of my online job so that my mind would only focus on my kids. I could still feed you even if you have no work, he said! For me, my online job was also very important. But, I decided to follow him and tried to rebuild my emotional strength. I decided to bid less work online to concentrate my thoughts to my kids. Less online task causes the drop of being a 100% top rated freelancer to 78%,  I lost my badge. Yet, I know I could still make it up. I just have to put a space of my thoughts of earning more and gave more time to my kids. I started to fetch and dropped Siam in the school (my father does before) with my youngest Philnand. I and my kids sometimes go out, pay the bills and go to playgrounds.

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Although I don’t earn more, I was happy spending more time with my kids. Eventually, kids are learning to be independent. Philnand had fewer tantrums, he was already comfortable walking with me as long as we hold hands while walking. He also does things on his own and we don’t spend much time on breastfeeding any longer. Every time he wanted to poop and cried, I tried to practiced not to personalize it, and not to worry about it so that I won’t get angry. Instead, we made song  (Philnand is pooping a big poop! Nanay and tatay is happy!). My duty as a mother gets lighter as my kids’ grew. I had time to stay long in the toilet, put some lipstick on and look at the mirror noticing that I already had many gray hairs. I was very happy because finally even if I don’t have me time kids don’t need me all the time because they are learning to be independent. As long as they could see me around they are already happy to do things on their own. And now, I am not ready to deal with more people whose values are different from mine, I am just so tired and I want to relax even just for a while. I cried to the deepest hidden thoughts I had, box the bed to the deepest anger I hide. Then my sister just let me cry and speak out! That was the loudest cry I ever had since my motherhood. Because when I am tired I used to just cry it on my own or hide in the ink of my journal or springs of the shower. Then my sister thought tools to release my stress and when I feel depressed.

Here we go! Read through my six helpful tools and tips to release stress or depression! I have been practicing them and really are helpful!

1. Breathing in and Breathing out.

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Seat cross your legs and breath in, breath out! breath out, breath in! Feel the air running through the nose, to the backbone, and into the tummy making it half full. Then, release slowly making your tummy half flattened. This will help clear up your thoughts that cause you to stress accordingly to my sister.

 

2. Look for someone you can talk to.

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Look for someone you can talk to. I just learned the importance of talking to someone is one way of releasing your busy thoughts. My sister explained, if you keep on talking to yourself it’s like you are putting everything back to your own body and senses: worries, stress, loneliness all negative feelings which will accumulate and will stress the mind. Whereas, talking to somebody will help you release thoughts away from your body! Taking away all your worries and releasing each thought which keeps your mind busy.

 

3. Blue Space

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According to blue health, a synthesis found that people living close to blue spaces report higher levels of physical activity and that interaction with blue spaces can have a positive effect on mental health – particularly in terms of stress reduction and perceived wellbeing.”

Yes, it did really work! After going to the beach I went home with a very fresh mind!Felt renewed strength! Since it was summer every time when my sister visited us we often find these blue space! And because the Philippines has many of these blue spaces! Excited to talk about this too in my blogs 🙂

 

4. Learn to say no!

 

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Learn to say no to the things that will cause you stress. No, to the obligations that you cannot cater. Learn to say not ok when it is not ok for you. Because it’s a burden to pretend you are ok but the truth you are not. It takes a lot of courage to say no, but when you are able to do it. It’s a big help in managing your stress. Mayo Clinic has a great article about when to say no as stress relief check here.

5. You cannot please everybody.

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Don’t try to impress everybody,  take it easy and live life not to the expectations of others. Be your own good self without any expectations.

 

6. Exercise

 

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Exercising or jogging with my two boys helps me redirect my positive thoughts and releases negative energy through sweat. While I jog or meditate I also pray. It is my time to connect to our creator and the universe. Feeling the sunset or sunrise then breathing fresh air and looking at the trees and mountains. According to a study published in ncbi “location with the highest level of nature had the greatest effect on reducing levels of stress .  Additionally according to  WebMD when we exercise our body releases chemicals called endorphins which reduces perceptions of pain. Endorphins also trigger a positive feeling in the body.